5 ways to shift back to the positive
How often are you focused on the positive? Does your mind spiral into negativity once it seems like things aren’t going to plan?
Do you ever get annoyed with seeing people who are always positive? Does it make you feel like there’s something wrong with them? Or worse, wrong with you?
I know how triggering it can be to feel like everyone else's lives are working out well when it feels like yours is falling apart. And also how amazing it feels to completely aligned with your purpose like you’re on top of the world in pure bliss. As an entrepreneur, I’ve learned how to embrace these waves of emotions, and most importantly, I’ve learned that the difference between the two boils down to perspective and the dialogue that’s going on inside our mind.
Positivity isn’t some magical place you arrive at after years of sitting in meditation and spiritual bypassing your way through life. Positivity is a choice we get to make every single day to tap into our own source of peace despite the adversity we face on a day-to-day basis. It’s about shifting our perspective from what isn’t working to what is working and observing the thoughts playing in the background of our mind.
Over the years, I’ve learned that one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself is to learn how to be positive even when it feels like everything around us is veering off our path. Believe me when I say that it’s 100% possible for you to increase the amount of time you feel good and it’s much closer than you think.
Positivity can be practical, it can be accessible, and you are so worthy of feeling good inside. Here are five things you can do today to transform your relationship with positivity and shift to a new perspective that supports a positive mindset.
1. Set Positive Expectations- When you wake up in the morning, spend the first few minutes visualizing all the wonderful things that will happen in your day. You can be broad with your visualizations by focusing on the simple things like a cup of your favorite coffee, a hug from your partner, or sunshine on your face. You can also be specific with what you’re visualizing like leading a very informative meeting, getting a raise, or meeting a new friend at a party or social event. The importance is that we train our mind to focus on the good things coming, rather than setting us up for negativity by dreading what will happen in our day.
2. Set Phone Reminders With Affirmations- Affirmations have such a huge impact in shaping the beliefs we have about ourselves. And yet, so many of us are guilty of coming up with affirmations only to forget them a few days later. To keep our mind focused on being positive, set reminders on your phone that go off at specific times and locations with the affirmation as the title. When it goes off, repeat the affirmation to yourself three times as you tap into the feelings of what the affirmation represents.
3. Observe the Inner-Dialogue- In order to shift your perspective on yourself, you will need to be mindful of the thoughts you’re saying. Comparing yourself above or below others doesn’t give a clear message to your mind about the kind of person you are. It is confusing and feeds the limiting beliefs that are holding us back from being a source of positivity. Throughout the day, notice what’s being said as you interact with others or when you mumble under your breath. If it isn’t something you’d say to your best friend, spouse, or child then it has no business in your mind. Acknowledge it without beating yourself up and then shift to a positive belief.
4. 5,4,3,2,1- If you’re having a really hard time shifting back to a positive state and need to catch a break then use this tool to distract your mind from the negative. Find five things you can see, four things you can hear, three things you can touch, two things you can smell, and one thing you can taste. This will instantly take your mind off of what isn’t working and bring it back to what is working so you can make a wise decision about the task at hand.
5. Express Gratitude- When you go to bed at night, replay your day in your mind and notice the moments when things worked out for you. Give thanks for the experiences that left you feeling lighter and more positive and forgive the experiences that left you feeling heavy. When we go to bed at night, it’s an opportunity for our energy and mind to reset. By giving thanks and forgiving these experiences, we clear up our mind to set a positive tone for the next day.
Each of these steps takes a maximum of five minutes to do and will have a lifetime effect on our well being and becoming a source of positivity. The key is to give yourself grace and take it one day at a time.